My jealous stepmother demands that I remove photos of my dead mother from social media, but I refuse. Am I improper?

If you have got lost a parent and the opposite parent has remarried, is it inappropriate to not remove photos of the deceased parent from social media?

A Reddit user desires to know if he’s improper for not deleting his late mother’s photos on Instagram simply because his stepmother doesn’t like seeing them.

Person posted on the favored AITA subredditwhich stands for “Am I The A-hole”, where users describe a private situation on the channel before the community votes on whether the user is definitely an a-hole or not.

In this particular story, the Reddit writer says that their dad remarried a lady three years after the Reddit user’s biological mother died. When the stepmother, whom we’ll call Jen, moved in, she made no secret of the very fact that she didn’t like seeing photos of her husband’s ex-wife. According to reports, Jen forced the oldest Reddit user and their younger twin siblings to cover photos of their mother.

“We had to remove all the photos of mom from the house,” writes a Reddit user. “We were allowed one photo that wasn’t easy to see in each of our bedrooms. But it had to blend in so Jen wouldn’t see the photos when our door was open (rule at dad’s house).”

The Reddit user claims that the one positive thing in these cruel circumstances is that their dad allows them to have a healthy relationship with their mother’s side of the family, mainly to take care of the kids.

“Dad maintaining this relationship is one of the only reasons I don’t completely hate him for putting Jen’s comfort ahead of ours so much,” the Reddit user adds.

While the kids needed to follow their father’s rules in the house he shared with Jen, those rules were irrelevant within the homes of their grandparents and aunts, where many photos of their deceased daughter and sister were displayed.

“When Jen found out about this, she was very upset,” said the Reddit user. “She tried to talk to one of my aunts about it and said it wasn’t healthy to see pictures of our dead mother everywhere, and my aunt told her to mind her own fucking business.”

Since then, the Reddit user has been taking photos of his mother from his grandparents and aunts and posting them on social media.

“I’ve been using social media lately to re-see photos of my mom and share information about our family when we were a real family and not just three siblings who basically lost their dad when their mom died in so many ways.”

This has develop into a sore point for Jen, who’s now demanding that the Reddit user remove the photos from the web. Jen’s demands come after a Reddit user claimed she provoked her by posting three photos of her family along with her mom and “happy memories” they once shared.

“She told me to stop posting photos of my mom and delete the family post,” the Reddit user said. She said I was going against her and my dad by posting them.

Dad stepped in and asked to take the photos down.

“I told him no. He left it there but Jen said I was posting it out of spite and that’s wrong,” the Reddit user added. “She told me she deserved more respect.”

Who is improper?

The Reddit community votes that the user will not be an asshole and that the stepmother needs some reality check.

“Jen can’t expect your mom’s memories to just be forgotten because she doesn’t like it,” one Reddit user said. “You can remember her and you can cherish her memories. How insecure do you have to be to be jealous like that.”

“There is no reason why you shouldn’t have memories of your mother with you,” one other user said. “You and your father are obviously and understandably mourning the loss of your mother.”

Others say the Reddit user doesn’t go far enough in being petty.

“I mean… is there any chance you could get your parents’ wedding video?” – asks one of the users.

“Create a Facebook group where you might be the only real administrator. Name the group “Friends and Family.” Invite your mom’s friends and members of the family to affix her, share memories and upload photos within the group,” suggests a Reddit user.