Is it okay to charge $450 to attend a wedding? Uh, no. But someone did and went on TikTok and said, “Am I tripping?” Uh, yes.

So this brother jumped on TikTok and said, “Okay TikTok, tell me if I’m tripping or not.” My Blackdar immediately sensed that I was, so in fact I continued. You can have seen the video; it quickly went viral, but chances are you’ll not have, since the brother made his account private. He clearly didn’t appreciate the monsoon of negative responses. You can see lots of his videos and the hysterical responses to them Here, Here AND Here.

He said he and his fiancée spent about $200,000 on their wedding, and I immediately shouted on the screen, “Yes, you’re all high! That’s a crazy amount to spend on a wedding!” But that wasn’t what he was asking us. He didn’t mind spending greater than most Americans make in a yr on his wedding. No, his query was this: He and his fiancée had told their guests they were charging $450 per person to attend their wedding. Family and friends had to buy tickets to their love party. No one said yes. That was what he was wondering. Is it okay to charge people to attend his wedding?

The answer is yes, he stumbles. My Blackdar was right.

A marriage is the primary vital thing you do as a couple. It’s the start line in your family. But the alternatives you make at your wedding show who you’re as a couple. If you’ll be able to’t plan a wedding that makes financial sense for you, you are starting your loved ones off on the improper foot. Everyone wants to have a dream wedding, but more importantly, you’ve got to be smart and honest about how much you’ll be able to spend. It’s awful to start your married life in debt because you simply had to exit of your way in your wedding.

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So the primary problem is that they overspent and now they’re trying to pass the associated fee on to their guests. That’s not cool.

At most weddings, people give lavish gifts because they know you are starting a family and they need to help. That’s why the registry is often stuffed with things for the house. The wedding guests are introducing you to married life and helping you construct a home. But there’s a huge difference between individuals who offer you a gift that they need to give and individuals who charge you to come to your wedding. I don’t even know the way you’ll be able to look your loved ones and close friends within the face and say, “You have to pay me a fee to come to my wedding.”

Weddings are expensive for guests — they’ve to find the right couples, they probably have to rent a hotel room, they could have to book flights. Adding $450 — or $900 for a couple — to all that puts a wedding out of reach for many individuals. It’s also probably insulting. It makes the entire thing appear to be a financial transaction somewhat than an expression of affection.

Later within the video, the brother actually scolds individuals who refuse to pay the fee, saying they’d have spent that much on tickets to see Beyoncé or to see Chris Brown. It’s problematic to judge people for a way they spend their money. It sounds silly to say, “Why did you spend that when you could have spent it on me?” But also, in the event you’re not providing the entertainment of the Renaissance World Tour, don’t ask me why I would spend that much on Bey and not you. Bro, you do not appear like Bey. You cannot sing like Bey, you’ll be able to’t dance like Bey, so what are we talking about?

At a wedding, you ought to be surrounded by love. Putting a price on being there in some way dumbs it down. It’s not an event you’ll be able to buy your way into, and I would not want my wedding to be shaped by who can and cannot afford to pay. That’s not the best way to get an audience that sends you’re keen on.